Archive for the ‘Trust’ Category

I have trust issues. I won’t try to pretend that I don’t. I’ve known three pathological liars in my life; probably more, but these I was close to. One was a high school friend, another was a relative, and the third was a boss I had for a period of time. It usually takes a […]

Lying Hurts

Posted: 23rd June 2008 by Barb in Dishonesty, Trust

“A liar will not be believed, even when he speaks the truth.” —Aesop Lying has its consequences in the fact that eventually nobody believes one who lies. We may believe that little white lies are not big deal, but when someone tells us lies it eats into our trust for them. If we’ve had someone […]

Selective Sharing

Posted: 2nd March 2008 by Barb in Boundaries, Trust

“It takes your enemy and your friend, working together, to hurt you: the one to slander you, and the other to get the news to you.” —Mark Twain It’s the truth that even the best of us will occasionally pass on some news that would better be left unsaid. Sometimes we do it to one […]

Trusting

Posted: 11th January 2008 by Barb in Dishonesty, Honesty, Trust

“We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone — but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.” —Walter Anderson Some of us have trust issues. They may go all the way back to childhood when we had parents who lied to us, who never did what they said, and […]

Healing from Betrayal

Posted: 2nd January 2007 by Barb in Healing, Resentment, Trust, Uncategorized

“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough.” —Frank Crane Anytime we have been betrayed or hurt in some way by another person it takes time to heal. We most likely feel that we can never trust anyone again if the betrayal […]

Love and Trust

Posted: 21st December 2006 by Barb in Feelings, Love, Pain, Trust, Uncategorized

“Love means exposing yourself to the pain of being hurt, deeply hurt by someone you trust.” —Unknown Even in the best of circumstances those we love will on occasion hurt us and cause us to lose trust. It’s just part of our humanness and imperfection that we sometimes hurt others. Being vulnerable enough to love […]

The Answers Do Come

Posted: 9th November 2006 by Barb in Trust, Uncategorized, Wisdom

“We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us.” —Marcel Proust Sometimes when life is going well we expect others to be as happy as we are; happy for our successes, achievements, new love relationship, job, whatever the “thing” is. This […]

Trust is an Option We Must Use

Posted: 8th November 2006 by Barb in Trust, Uncategorized

“Trust no one, tell your secrets to nobody and no one will ever betray you.” —Bigvai Volcy People often hurt us and let us down, but if we never trust anyone we will lead quite a lonely life. Sometimes we just have to take that risk that the other person is going to do what […]