Archive for the ‘Dishonesty’ Category

I have trust issues. I won’t try to pretend that I don’t. I’ve known three pathological liars in my life; probably more, but these I was close to. One was a high school friend, another was a relative, and the third was a boss I had for a period of time. It usually takes a […]

Honesty

Posted: 21st August 2008 by Barb in Dishonesty, Honesty

“I hope I shall follow firmness of virtue enough to maintain that I consider the most enviable of all titles — the character of an honest man.” —George Washington Being honest is not always easy, but it is much simpler than trying to keep up with lies. When we tell the truth we don’t have […]

Lying Hurts

Posted: 23rd June 2008 by Barb in Dishonesty, Trust

“A liar will not be believed, even when he speaks the truth.” —Aesop Lying has its consequences in the fact that eventually nobody believes one who lies. We may believe that little white lies are not big deal, but when someone tells us lies it eats into our trust for them. If we’ve had someone […]

Trusting

Posted: 11th January 2008 by Barb in Dishonesty, Honesty, Trust

“We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone — but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.” —Walter Anderson Some of us have trust issues. They may go all the way back to childhood when we had parents who lied to us, who never did what they said, and […]

Integrity

Posted: 9th January 2008 by Barb in Dishonesty, Honesty, Integrity, Self-image

“Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people.” —Spencer Johnson When we seek to improve our self-esteem and grow in self-love we must be true to ourselves. We must love ourselves fully, without judgment. Honesty with ourselves is where we start the process. We do not lie to […]

“Self-honesty is a prerequisite for self-discipline.” —Ellen Kaye-Cheveldayoff There’s a line in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous which states that there are those “who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves” and because of this inability to be rigorously honest they cannot achieve sobriety. And so it is with life, really. We can […]

“Every man has three characters: that which he shows, that which he has, and that which he thinks he has.” —Alphonse Karr No matter how much we might try to convince others of how good of a person we are, it’s our actions that speak most loudly. If we do what we say we will […]

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” —Oprah Winfrey As we go through our journey of life we meet many people in various ways. We meet at work, church, recovery meetings, social settings, etc. And most of the time we try to get to know some people better than others. […]

Lies Perpetrate More Lies

Posted: 16th November 2006 by Barb in Dishonesty, Honesty, Uncategorized

“Every act of dishonesty has at least two victims: the one we think of as the victim and the perpetrator as well. Each little dishonesty makes another little rotten spot somewhere in the perpetrator’s psyche.” —Lesley Conger Every one of us has told a lie at one time or another. Sometimes people lie to keep […]