“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”
—Albert Ellis

Taking responsibility for our self, our accomplishments as well as our failures, is important for recovery and spiritual growth. We will never grow and evolve when we continue to blame our mistakes or misfortunes on something or someone.

No matter what happened to us in our lives, and truly we do have bad things happen, it is still our responsibility to take care of our self. As long as we use the excuse that they made us do something, we give up all of our power to that person or thing.

Excuses keep us locked in our misfortunes, not in our accomplishments and future goals and endeavors. Owning our power to take care of ourselves and our lives gives us strength to move forward. We really can do it. We don’t have to lay the blame elsewhere anymore. We are moving forward, but only when we stop giving others our power.

We won’t move forward until we know that we are able to, and we won’t know we are capable of standing on our own two feet if we continue to attribute events, either good or bad, to others. We can take care of ourselves. We can grow and mature. We will when we start taking responsibility for ourselves and stop waiting on other people to do for us.

Once determined to stand strong there’s no turning back.

  1. Aravis says:

    Nobody can make me do anything without my consent, so where does the blame truly lie?

    Good message as always, Barb. :0)

  2. Loving Annie says:

    What if I’m not blaming anyone else, but the feelings of inertia/despondency just don’t seem to go away ?
    Everyone says be patient, so maybe I just need to know I am doing my best right now.
    Maybe a year from now things will look different, and I’m expecting too muuch, too soon…

  3. Mark says:

    Very well written article with excellent advice. We must be tottaly accountable for ourselves.

    Loving Annie
    It will happen, don’t try to force it, allow yourself to be! You are wonderful.