“We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.”
How many times in our lives have we argued with another person about something that we both know we are right about? And sometimes we are both right, it’s just that what we see is through our eyes and they through theirs. What one sees as a burden another sees as a chance for growth. Where one person sees venting as a bad thing another knows that sometimes it’s necessary.
A concrete example of not seeing things as they are, but seeing them as we are, would be looking at something through the eyes of someone who is color blind. Just because they see something in one color does not make it that color.
We can only know what we know and see what we see through the eyes of the person we are at the moment. What we know and see today may not be the same thing in a year. We may grow and see things completely different in a matter of time. And often we’ll find that what we thought before, what we were certain about, was not so.
No matter how many times someone tells us “this too shall pass” or some other comforting thing, until we have had enough experiences for ourselves to know this as fact, we won’t truly believe it.
And it’s also true that we may see only the things we wish to see in situations. Sometimes we blame others for something we perceive as us being wronged, when it’s our own incorrect thinking about what’s happened.
We can only see things from the point at which we stand.