Seeing the Truth

Posted: 17th June 2007 by Barb in Perspective, Uncategorized

“We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.”
—The Talmud

How many times in our lives have we argued with another person about something that we both know we are right about? And sometimes we are both right, it’s just that what we see is through our eyes and they through theirs. What one sees as a burden another sees as a chance for growth. Where one person sees venting as a bad thing another knows that sometimes it’s necessary.

A concrete example of not seeing things as they are, but seeing them as we are, would be looking at something through the eyes of someone who is color blind. Just because they see something in one color does not make it that color.

We can only know what we know and see what we see through the eyes of the person we are at the moment. What we know and see today may not be the same thing in a year. We may grow and see things completely different in a matter of time. And often we’ll find that what we thought before, what we were certain about, was not so.

No matter how many times someone tells us “this too shall pass” or some other comforting thing, until we have had enough experiences for ourselves to know this as fact, we won’t truly believe it.

And it’s also true that we may see only the things we wish to see in situations. Sometimes we blame others for something we perceive as us being wronged, when it’s our own incorrect thinking about what’s happened.

We can only see things from the point at which we stand.

  1. Aravis says:

    It’s so odd that you bring this up, because we were just discussing this very thing in my Public Speaking class. We have to give a persuasive speech this week, and the professor was explaining to us that the topics we pick should challenge people’s attitudes, not their beliefs or their core values. There’s no way we’re going to change those things- only time and personal experience might change the first, while nothing is likely to change the latter. In our personal relationships, we can discuss our point of view with others who hold different ones, but we can’t expect to change their minds anymore than they can really change ours.

    Though it was meant to educate us on persuasive speaking, I thought it a really good life lesson. And here you are sharing the same thoughts! I tend to argue those greater issues rather than discuss. But having received this message now twice in a week’s span, perhaps it’s time to revisit my attitude. :0)

  2. Greenwoman says:

    I had lots of thoughts as I read this…as I so frequently do when I read here…

    This post reminded me that I have met some people profoundly worthy of trust…who are very wise and who have been through many similar life experiences and who have moved beyond them to happiness, contentment and wholeness. If they make suggestions, or share their experience…I figure that’s about as good as experiencing it myself. I don’t need any investigation. I can take their word for it and give what they say a try…I can learn from their experience.

    It also reminded me of “the right to be right” Its a saying that I heard somewhere along the way…Can’t remember where now…but when we are in our ego…we think that being right includes others being wrong…When we look at things from the heart or soul’s perspective and get that ego out of there…we see that no one is all right nor all wrong in any setting. Life is full of shades of grey, rather than all black and white….

    Just some thoughts…