“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
We learn from mistakes, pain, and heartache, at least we should learn from these things. In the book, “Quiet Strength,” by Tony Dungy, he writes about a son he and his wife, Lauren, adopted who cannot feel physical pain. Someone with this affliction never learns to not eat something right out of the oven, or even not to touch the hot oven again, but for most of us, we learn this lesson early on.
There are those who have suffered severe injuries which cause physical disabilities, yet those people rather than feeling sorry for themselves go on to achieve great things. A person with a missing leg uses a prosthetic leg and runs marathons, or plays wheelchair basketball. Someone born without vision becomes a great musician. The list could go on and on.
And so it is with life issues including those that begin with our family of origin. For positive people who insist on growth rather than blame, the bad things that happened to us as children are just incentive to be better people. It is a gift if we choose for it to be. And if we choose to live in blame we will continue to live under the oppression that was placed up on us in our younger days.
We ought to each take what we are given and use it for good and not lament that which we do not have or which was taken from us too soon. Each day of life is a gift and ought to be treated as such. It is our choice and making the right decision on which side to look at will make or break our lives.
Choosing to learn rather than wallow in pain is always the best option.