“Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly.”
—St. Francis De Sales
At times in our lives we may find that others try to shatter our self-image. It may be that we don’t do things the way they think we should, or they offer criticism for other reasons, perhaps because they feel inadequate compared to us.
But we really don’t need to let what others think about us have an affect on who we think we are. We cannot let others’ insecurities cause us harm by making us think we are inadequate. We are good enough, what we do is sufficient.
Just because we do things in a different way from another does not mean we are not okay. We all have areas there we need to grow, but we are still okay as we are in the moment.
There are also things we all have to be proud of and we ought to remember those things. Graduating from college; buying our first home or fifth home; raising healthy and happy children; landing a good job or simply doing a good job at the one we have; being an active member of society who gives time and/or money to those in need; the list could go on and on.
Make your own list. Put on it the things you’ve done that you are proud of. Don’t forget things that took a lot of strength, perhaps you left an abusive relationship or stood up to a bully in your life. If there’s not much on the list of things you’ve done that you feel good about, it might help to ask those close to you what they see. Often others will see the good in us when our minds are clouded by our failures.
Whenever we feel down it’s a good time to check our accomplishments list.