Reining in Anger

Posted: 31st July 2008 by Barb in Anger, Choices, Forgiveness

“If you kick a stone in anger, you’ll hurt your own foot.”
—Korean Proverb

So many times when someone angers us, we spin ourselves into a place that may feel out of control. Some of us throw things, others kick and scream, and sometimes we are so mad we want to hurt the other person. Hopefully we don’t proceed in an effort to hurt another because we’ve been hurt since that solves nothing.

It helps to remember that having anger does not take away what the other person did to hurt us. Nothing really makes what they did go away, although an apology from them and forgiveness by us will help a lot.

If at all possible we can ease the situation when we treat those who anger us with love, kindness, and compassion. Yes, this is a tall order and perhaps one of the most difficult things we can do, but it does diffuse the situation and can restore us to peace.

Holding onto the anger by letting it fester and by telling everyone we can how angry we are won’t do much to make it go away. We probably will just get worked up over and over as we tell it to anyone who will listen.

Anger is not a bad thing. It is a signal that something is wrong and often helps us to move on from a situation that is not healthy for us. It’s how we handle the anger that is good or bad.

When we find ourselves feeling crazy with anger we can count to 10; walk away from the situation and return after we’ve calmed down; or take a few minutes to pray even if the prayer is simply “help.” Or we can kick and scream and yell and gossip. It’s our choice really.

How you handle your anger says a lot about where you are in life.

  1. Loving Annie says:

    A big issue for me is feeling safe and strong enough to clearly express my anger and then be done with it, instead of being afraid and stuffing it, and letting it eat me to pieces inside.