Shades of Gray

Posted: 15th August 2008 by Barb in Communication, Perspective

“Things are not always as they seem ….”

We can get ourselves into some mighty big messes when we think things are one way, but find out they aren’t as we thought. Often this is because of communication errors.

We also bring into each situation our individual experiences, so how we react may not be the way someone else might react which can cause conflicts when dealing with others.

Things are not usually black or white; they contain many various degrees of gray. When someone says something, we hear what we hear whether that’s how they meant it or not. We may feel lied to while the other person insists they told the truth. Usually if we can keep the lines of communication open and discuss the incident we can figure out that it was more of a misunderstanding than a lie.

Sometimes we don’t understand what’s happening in our lives. We may see hardship as a punishment, but that’s not how life works. Yes, we suffer consequences for things we do, but God doesn’t punish us. Life lessons teach us if we use them as such. Often when we are in the midst of an issue whether it’s on the job, at home, in a love relationship, or any other situation, we don’t see and understand things clearly. That’s why people say hindsight is 20/20 because our vision becomes clear once we get past an event.

We many never make up with those we’ve hurt or those who have hurt us, usually because either or both involved will not take the time to fully communicate about the issues. There are two sides to every story. If we could only remember that when we find ourselves in a spot that we don’t understand our lives would be much easier.

Remember that whenever conflict hits, things are not always as they seem.

  1. Loving Annie says:

    Boy have I learned this one over the last year or so ! Really gotten it, how important communication and not assumptions are… And how you can’t make someone communicate wh doesn’t want to, or doesn’t know how… And how important it is for ME to speak up fully and quickly and not hold back out of fear or pain…

  2. e.e. says:

    Every time I come here I am rewarded with some tiny piece of advice or wisdom and also encouragement…. thank you, Barb.
    Please, if you ever come to Boston, I would liek to meet you and say thank you.

    You are in inspiration.

    God bless.

  3. pinkmemoirs says:

    I love this blog. it’s an inspiration to me daily, infact I have stolen some of your posts for my blog! Hope you don’t mind.