Keeping Our Perspective

Posted: 19th September 2008 by Barb in Perspective

“Most of us miss out on life’s big prizes. The Pulitzer. The Nobel. Oscars. Tonys. Emmys. But we’re all eligible for life’s small pleasures. A pat on the back. A kiss behind the ear. A four-pound bass. A full moon. An empty parking space. A crackling fire. A great meal. A glorious sunset. Hot soup. Cold beer.”

What is important in life? This question is usually best answered after we have suffered a real loss and not when things are going great.

We can get so wrapped up in the daily activities of life that while important in the moment, are not truly the most important things in life. What matters is love of family and friends. Giving to others. Finding peace in our lives. Having long-term relationships. Nurturing those around us who need it, especially children, whether they are ours or belong to another.

What doesn’t matter is getting stuck in traffic for 10 minutes. Losing a dollar in a vending machine. Having to pick up a piece of trash someone threw down. And all the other things that are nuisances to us, but just really don’t matter much in the grand scheme of things.

When we do let the little things get to us in a big way, that’s a signal that we are off track and need some rest and relaxation and time to regroup. We may need to sit down and make two lists. One list of what really matters and one list of the things we worry about and get upset about that really do not matter.

If we have good friends with mutual love and respect we are blessed. If the neighbor won’t mow his grass is it really a big deal? What will matter five years from now is what we need to focus on. Make that list and see what unimportant things can be taken from worry.

Remember that those we love and care for are important, other stuff not so much.