No Excuses

Posted: 30th November 2008 by Barb in Blame, Choices, Consequences, Doing Right

“There’s right and there’s wrong. You got to do one or the other. You do the one, and you’re living. You do the other, and you may be walking around but you’re dead as a beaver hat.”
—Marion “John” Wayne

We have many opportunities in life to do the right thing or to do what we know is wrong. When we choose to do something that we know we should not do there are usually ways we can justify our actions.

Excuses and blame are easy to think of such as: I didn’t mean to; it just happened; it was her fault; I was just living in the moment; it was the alcohol; I didn’t plan it this way; and so on. And while there are times that we do things that we know we shouldn’t there is always the opportunity to stop moving forward with our mistake.

Just because we don’t see consequences of bad behavior today, it doesn’t mean there won’t be any or that when there are consequences we will know about them. Any time we are involved in behavior that could harm another person we need to step back and stop what we are doing.

Life offers us many temptations. We may feel justified in doing wrong because we are lonely, depressed, poor, or otherwise downtrodden. But doing wrong has no real excuses, at least not the kinds that absolve us of guilt.

Walking down the path of wrong will never bring us long-term fulfillment or happiness. It probably will cause us harm and hurt others too. It is our decision to do right or wrong, but excuses to justify do little if anything to right a wrong.

You can decide at any moment to stop a wrongdoing in process.

  1. I am sometimes creeped out by how your most recent posts match my most recent posts in the messages that we are both communicating in such different styles! :)

  2. lynetteb says:

    i find the difficulty to be determining what is “right” and what is “wrong” in the more challenging scenarios. some are straightforward, and some so complex that there is no right without wrong, and no wrong without right.

    the uncertainty of the future outcomes of many of our choices can lead someone like me to “analysis paralysis”, wherein each choice has some degree of wrong or hurt, to my self and/or to others. this is my greatest struggle now.

    thank you for your thought-provoking posts!